Have you ever felt like the
dog in this picture... like you’re trying so hard to blend in but no matter how
much you look and act the part, you’re still different? I have.
In fact, I feel this way most of the time. I’m surrounded by other parents whose methods
of parenting are far better than mine. I’m
amid team moms that are more dedicated to the sport and to the team than I
am. I’m amongst PTA members who are way
more obsessed with their child’s education than I am. I’m in a Bible study with ladies that trump
me in the department of morality and purity.
It’s not that I don’t care about
my children’s education or if their team wins or about being a good mom… it’s
moreso that I don’t talk about these things constantly or regularly voice my opinion
on them. Trying to look and act the same often requires a certain level of either silence or faking or both.
Blending in can be exhausting. I think that’s why I seek solace in writing,
for on the pages of a novel I can live vicariously through each and every
character. When I’m deep in the throes
of writing a novel, I don’t feel the unspoken (and sometimes spoken)
condemnation on the way I live my life or the choices I make. On the page, I can simply be the dog.
In real life, I often want to
scream, but that, too, would be considered an abnormal reaction amongst the
herd of sheep. So, I sit quietly,
stifeling my bark, and wondering if anyone will notice I’m really a dog. ~
Who wants to be a sheepdog in a herd of sheep? Sheep are stupid animals, by the way. Much better to be the comet in a sky of stars, or the horse in the field of cows. You being different from the rest doesn't make you "bad" at the things you do. It makes you, you. And I really love the you you are!
ReplyDeleteI just tell people I'm the black sheep, and they all say heh heh heh nervously but then think all my non-blending is me being funny rather than not blending in. I say to hell with them.
ReplyDeleteMalcolm
P.S. Smoky's right about the intelligence of sheep.