Communication is essential
to every human relationship; and at the very core of communication is
love. I’m not talking about goo-goo, gaa-gaa,
romantic love. I’m talking about genuine
acknowledgment and respect for another individual. I’m talking about a basic, fundamental
proclamation of their existence in your world.
Allow me to explain:
Even if you are angry
and yelling at someone, the very act of spewing your emotions in verbal
vibrations shows that you care enough to speak.
You care enough to open your mouth and explain your feelings to
them. It shows that on some level they
are worth your time and your effort and your emotion. Even if you don’t like the person, the fact
that you take the time to tell them you don’t like them proves that on some
deeper level you, at the very least, acknowledge their existence in your world.
Communication is what
keeps relationships alive and growing. Even
when you love someone it doesn’t mean there won’t be arguments or
disagreements… but love means you communicate your way through them and grow
closer because of them.
Love does not mean you
stop communicating. Love tries
harder.
When someone goes
deliberately silent, neither acknowledging a person’s reach, nor responding in
any way to their attempts at communicating, it is a stance of hatefulness. There
is no love in this form of stone-cold-silence.
Let me say that I
understand some people need time to process their thoughts before they
respond. Everyone is different and some
take longer than others to think and pray before they speak. The difference is neither right nor
wrong. However, during the processing
period, an acknowledgment of existence should be issued. It can be something as simple as: “I received your email and will get back to
you soon.” An acknowledgment is an act
of communication and an action of love that can belay much heartache and
misunderstanding.
An acknowledgment is an
action that says, “I care.” It doesn’t mean a person must discuss things right
away. It doesn’t mean they have to
change their processing time. It is
simply a return reach in the direction of communication. It is a deliberate
gesture that says, “you are worth my time to respond.”
When a person goes
silent with no acknowledgment whatsoever, it is a deliberate power play of hate
and ego. It sends a message that the
other person is neither worth their time nor their energy. It says that the person doesn’t matter in
their life. It says that the person is
not worth any effort whatsoever.
Much is said through deliberate silence.
Silence is one of the greatest human character weaknesses and ironically it usually shares a bed with arrogance. ~
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