SPOTLIGHT MILITARY FAMILY: Mike & Ruth Dickmeyer (
It is with great pleasure that I introduce Mike and Ruth to you on this MILITARY MONDAY segment. Mike and Ruth are not only my previous neighbors, but they are wonderful people and dear friends.
Neighbors, like me, soaked it all in, with teary eyes and goose bumps … thankful he had returned safely, grateful for the service and sacrifice Mike and Ruth were making for our freedom, and reminded of the thousands of families who earnestly await the homecoming of their loved ones.
Typical day and nights would vary depending on whether or not we had missions traveling outside our Bases. In our downtime, we would use the Gym, watch movies or work on Distance Learning Courses offered through sometimes sporadic Internet connections.
Phone calls with family and loved ones were always a highlight for me, as it would temporarily take my brain to another place. Keeping busy was always important to me because it would make the time go faster, and each day was one day closer to going home. ~
WORDS FROM RUTH DICKMEYER
I am Mike’s wife, Ruth, and this is my perspective and how I handled Mike being gone.
Mike was deployed twice. His second deployment was a little easier because we knew more of what to expect. Also, we knew far in advance which helped in getting things in order. But... no matter what, it is still very hard to say goodbye, knowing you will not see them for a long time and having the awareness that they are in harms way. I have always felt for the families that have children in which it becomes much more complex.
The advice I would give to other families and to loved ones for the first and all deployments is first of all take care of yourself and your family in all forms- Physically, Emotionally, Spiritually, Mentally. You do not want to make it worse by having lifestyle behaviors that will cause more stress for you and your family.
Second, do not be afraid to ask for help. Mike and I have had such a great support system with our wonderful neighbors, friends and family members and even my coworkers. We feel very blessed. Do not hesitate to ask for help when you need it. We have found that most people really do want to help you.
Lastly, take advantage of the military support systems in place and accept all the support you are given.
There is one more thing that helped Mike and I tremendously during his deployment. We figured out ways to communicate while he was there. Technology is amazing now, so take advantage of it and include the entire family.
I also want to extend A Big Thanks to all the loved ones in the military and your contributions to keep us free and to all the soldiers who fight for us everyday. ~